what should i do. She was new to town and I had grown up in the area we met, so I welcomed her into my family and showed her many things about the new area she was living helping her adjust to her new transition. So what does your therapist think? So what is it youre receiving when you fall in love? That automatically erased special ring tone attributed to her contact. Im writing this to say that the advice on this website worked. I do also still have feelings for my husband. Then, I basically told him that I was fed up him, were broken up, and that hes free to go do whatever he wants, and Ill do the same. This is because that is the only profession that deems it fine for the same therapist to see both members of a couple alone. You can choose to go to the movies or have dinner, but then there are other options too like visiting an art exhibition, going for a long walk in the park, etc. I would not be surprised to learn that he is cheating once again. And he left and I never spoke to him until a couple of months ago on Facebook and when I spoke to him he seemed so angry all he kept saying was leave me alone dont talk to me, the day I left high school I never planned on talking to u again. How do I trust him again? What can I do or we do to get through this? But I love him I do, I devoted so much time money and energy into this and I of t want it to go to waste, he says he wants to show me how he would change he keeps asking me to come back there not realizing I would go crazy because you did things with her in the same bed and same room I would be in, I told him I cant I would be too uncomfortable I told him to come here and hes coming he spent 700+ to come here for four days to come see me to prove to me hes going to change and that this will never happen again but I dont know how hes going to do that I. What can i do to see him as my partner again? Although she told me there are always bunch of people upstairs and the place is uncomfortable. comment. We moved around shopping for baby stuff, groceries, her personal stuff at expensive places.This took place between September to December 2014 and she was due around late January. I feel stupid for staying this long. But He does that for this co worker and they talk on the phone throughout the day for 2 to 3hrs. But he loves me so deeply I know that if I fixed myself we could have a life long relationship. You deserve better and there is better trust me. Sexy = appealing. May I recommend a video on my own website called 3 keys to a spectacular marriage? It sounds also like you are blessed with a caring and loving husband. I thought she would learn few lesson if I ignore her for some time. Be strong and know that relationships are a two way street not one sided. And would he put that ring on your finger? I left comment here before about my ex girlfriend who got pregnant for her best friend while we were together. I have several thoughts. The first time I found out he begged for me to take him back. since we started having sex again i realise his behaviour towards me is a little better but when he leaves and go back to the other city to work he comes home with a strange behaviour and he dont want me to touch him and then the night before he goes back to the other city we have sex and he gave me a a body massage for mothers day and that how the sex started. My husband said he loves me and cares about me but he just does not like me at all. He slowly opened back up to me and after 4 months I got a I love you from him, which frankly shocked me into speechlessness. I never regretted . What does that mean? We have been engaged for 2 years and only a few months ago decided to get married officially on December 10th. I really dont know what to do. Then at the end he broke up with me and said he didnt want me to contact him and he didnt want a tearful goodbye. When you both argue, it would be intense and can lead to name-calling and threats of breaking up. No one deserves that or to be given a second chance. Be happy to hear your advice. The process is very well described in detail :) the interesting thing is falling in love again takes inputs from both persons and if the other person is not willing to be genuine and do their part to make up for the betrayal then it leaves one with suffering alternating with numbness which eventually overtakes (ie. I dont know what to do not to long ago we had a weekend alone which was good but since he leaves for work and we barely talk it doesnt sustain me from this terrible feeling. Its almost as if Good and Bad is unclear in your mind and everything first looked good when it wasnt and now everything looks all bad when it may not be. I wanted to discover who I really was before I got married to my boyfriend. he is 24 and i am 32, he know about it but i cant help but feel that the age gap is too big. Realizing you love someone after breaking up is realizing that there's no amount of score-keeping or rationalizations that actually make you feel OK about breaking up. He says he didnt tell her he wanted to work things out but she told me he did. This is frustrating her and causing her to give up hope. My answer is: Feeling can come back, but the process is backwards from the way it was the first time. He most likely lied that the cheating was just emotional. Letting him do you like this is letting him run over you. But my experience is different. He promised to our children things would be better and to me. I keep thinking hes the reason why I cant see a future for us or for me in general. I dont talk to guys I dont want to become friends with any new guys that Ive done nothing wrong for him to not trust me a little bit. And you lost big. You sound like an intelligent young woman; there can be a lot of possibilities for you to have a good life. We had all the qualities of a functioning relationship. Having to take that risk and live with that risk can be overwhelming to the point that our love becomes mixed with the occasional bout of hate. For some reason Im drawn to him and even though I know it would be best, I cant let things end. Ask her if shes willing to go ice skating with you My husband & I married at 19; have 2 beautiful & intelligent daughters who are in their 30s; married & have given us 3 gorgeous grandchildren. So I looked for an outlet which was going into little dating sites just fooling around at first but then got to the point where things got a little too serious did I feel bad? I should start off by saying that I have Borderline Personality Disorder and when I am not healthy, I can have great difficulties in having healthy intimate interpersonal relationships. I also know that none of it justified my actions. Please help! Focus on loving yourself more than hating them When you are hurt, a lot of negative emotions like sadness, disbelief, and anger take over you. Despite all this, I didnt support him. How can I do this. My problems is that we grew apart, hardly had any sex, didnt talk about things more than day to day stuff and were more like room mates in the past 3 years. So, if I was off once he got off work I expected hed spend time with me but no all he did was sleep all day until he had to wake up and go to work later that night. Ive thought about getting therapy for just myself due to depression. Since June of 2016 we have been seeing a marriage counsellor and that has helped somewhat. Am welling to fight back, but i feel hes is not trying to put the effort into getting back together. If theres any lesson in this its just to be honest with people bc the damage caused from lying is not worth it. Fast forward, she badly needed to see me in May but I prevented her cus I was confused about my status. Interestingly, the Eastern culture from which the mindfulness meditation comes was big on compassion, so that skill will be excellent for your marriage as well as the trauma. At first it felt like a dream until he hurt me once more. You are clear that your ex- is using you but you fall into the trap again and again. There was no contact with the first girl after the night he broke up with her) I kind of gave him a free pass on both of those, they hurt, I was honest an open with my feelings, he understood why I was upset and did everything he could to fix the problem. So he took the car, picked them up & gave them a lift home. When you are experiencing this, it can leave you feeling lost and confused, hurt and angry, while simultaneously making your head swim with nostalgic thoughts. I hate what he did, but I know on some level that was not truly who he was; he was just battling his own fears. How does one fall in love again? So I guess I always expect the worst and questioned him ask him to delete all his social media sites and quit contact with them. To fall back in love, you have to start giving. He even referenced your blog postthe part about doing this backwards. And Im constantly irritated by him, which in turn makes me super mean. I continue to pray for his healing and I told him that I would be here for him if he needed anything . seriously. I know she fears this is just another cycle of inappropriate behavior followed by her doubting the relationship, me noticing that, getting temporary help and then giving up because things get better and the cycle continues. He now realized how wrong he has been and is fully committed to change everything and to show me how he is putting me always first, no matter what. BUT they also let you have sex w your boyfriend and live a grownup life w/o any responsibilities. Had sex got pregnant. I had the same occurrence with my ex. Is it any way that my husband might have a change of heart and can fall in love with me again.Or are we totally done and hes all in to this co worker lady now. You need to BOTH make an effort to give to one another. Thank you. I critique her and put her down until she began Drinking. PLEASE READ: I met my sons father when I was in high school he was 2 years younger he was the perfect gentle men we were inseparable we had love like the movies. And furthermore, if you could take him back then he should be mature enough to take you back. Idk where to start. I needed him but he was preoccupied with the other woman and his ex. Dr Deb I feel like running away. I loved him, just couldnt deal with the ex and the mom, tried telling him over and over that this was causing problems, he couldnt understand, kept saying he isnt interested in her. If I give her space I feel like she wont be back. So I decided to talk with him about his new woman. So confused! I really need your expert advice because I dont know am I wasting my time trying and hoping that my husband will fall in love with me and want our marriage to work. How can I get beyond feeling so guilty and shameful so I can put some work in to making him feel that I care deeply about him? I said she could give him oral sex, and that I wasnt interested in watching. Long story short. We now live in 2 different states, we chat online, skype and spend at least once a week on the phone for about 3-4 hours. We both say that we love each other and we want to be together, but she is having a very hard time being certain about whether or not she can let go and be with me. He says that I dont do anything for his to trust me, what am I suppose to do? She felt she was constantly walking on egg shells out of fear of when she would do something that I would yell at her about. Sorry about that.. Hi, but he kept saying we would marry though he didnt mean it. Its only been four days since the end of my relationship of 9yrs. so for her to say a matter of hours later its over came completely out of the blue! Counselling and even medication might be excellent choices. At the moment, I dont want to stay in the marriage because of him, I only want to stay in the marriage because of the impact on the wider family and also I really love my stepchildren we have day-to-day care of them, I spend more time with them than their biological parents do, and I dont want to lose them from my life. I wish I was exaggerating. About a month upon coming back, he finally confessed to me that he had slept with another woman while I was gone. I felt hurt and betrayed but I did not want to fall out of loveI kept thinking positive thoughts about him. hurt but yesterday she just told me she wasnt From that day forward I changed everything in the way that I support her financially and emotionally. he is hurt over the fact that his sister and mother at times dont get along well and he said i dont respect him and as we start to argue i get so loud on top of my voice and he cant deal with stuff like that so he dont think it will work. I brought us both down and it has destroyed everything we had. Hi Thomas, I just found this website searching for links to help save my marriage. About 3 and a half years ago I lied to her about my brother dying. I finally went back to the US and told him I wanted out if the marriage. He wants to be with me but he thinks he will cheat on me again and again. We lived off his financial aid money for that year, until I finished school and he dropped out for the first time. Therefore, its impossible for them to validate you. I still have a lot of work to do but Im trying. He has to understand himself better. Yes, please address this issue of emotional intimacy with someone outside of our relationships with our partners. Or mayb im sick Help plz. In the meantime, I also suggest you get counseling to get help on what it might be in your own personality that has presented an obstacle for your fiance. I need help ;( seriously. I think the whole problem is that I am not patient enough and am constantly checking in with her too see if progress is being made. I guess my question is how depression and relationships work? Im trying to continue toconverse as we did but she says I AM ONLY THINKING ABOUT MY FEILLINGS AND IM NOT GETTING IT. Few weeks ago, arguments ensued between us over the phone because I went to her baby fathers house because she promised to see me but played me. For his benefit, and for mine. It should make us more sympathetic to the plight of others. But if you willingly allowed it, then you need to ask yourself: How did I let this happen? But the last 4months since I was honest when she asked shes beat me down to the point. Then she can be the icing on your already delicious cake. Dear Dr. Deb, I am now in therapy and dealing with my issues, should I let my wife go? She has said she now feels supported by me, which is different than before, but still no passion or intimacy. I dont want to lose contact with her and a kind of out of sight out of mind situation. All you can do now is figure out how to be happy again. But we still came back to each other. Going out for a bike ride is another great idea for your first date because it gets you both active and outside of the house. I trusted him to be responsible. Hes not closing the door on us but we each have our own work to do, etc. The therapists on this blog are amazing and you can see who they are by what they write. Its something rich and mature that you cant feel the first time around: Its a rock-solid knowledge of who this other person really is, leading to a much deeper bond, greater respect, and stronger trust than you could ever have with a new person. Everything is my fault and he is through done with us. . I had been clean for over a decade. Spouses are not there to make someone happy. When this continues, the commonalities arent so apparent. We were so much more than that. A child of the civil rights movement, a trial lawyer and the youngest individual ever to be elected to the South Carolina Legislature as well as the youngest African American elected official anywhere in the nation, Bakari Sellers has known great personal loss and earned historic public victories. Please get your health checked now that youre having sex again. She went on Facebook and messaged my girlfriend and told her that we saw each other and had sex, but we didnt. And due to that I was a bad father and boyfriend because I wasnt doing the camping and hiking and other fun things I loved to do and my family wanted to do. He was really into me and we said we would marry then he had to leave the country. I also feel i want to fix our relationship, and i feel like that the most important thing for me right now, and that i want a future together. Any advice on what I should do? Pushing your current husband away is a good way to protect yourself but not good for the relationship. I was sitting in the car & my door was open. For some reason he could never let her go. i have apologised through texts and we fought on the ex issue also . At first I tried too hard to get him to talk to me, though I should have left him alone. You both have to agree to counseling to learn communication or you might as well forget it. I hate that the one I love hurt me so bad that its hard to love myself. I will spend my life missing him and in regret. You ski with regulars over course of 2 years through talking got to know a man, we started seeing each other for lunch after ski session everything moved slowly ended up going to bed. Hurt is a reaction to fear, and in a place of Love, there is no room for fear or anything else. Real life is never like the fantasy we have when we first fall in love. It sounds to me like your husband is suffering from abuse, depression, trauma or something like that. I see a future with her and she means the world to me. Is there yelling? Hello Elena, I applause for what you done. Wont it just cause more stress later and if he relapsed once we are allowed back in wont it be our fault? I was in shock I think, I think im still in shock. He has recently started a job but he has never kept one long term and spends his days getting drunk and smoking pot, which I dont do personally but I have tried it and dont see anything wrong with it if your life is in order. Sometimes you need to find a middle ground. We have no children but know we want to fix our marriage. We have had minor breaks but have resolved them and have been together since. Just want to make this right and go back to the loving, supportive, fun relationship that I let slip away. (He says she listens.) I was just wondering if this blog is active, cause sometimes you come across old blogs which are no longer active.. Didnt mean to criticize.. As now one commented on my post and as you are the first therapist I could relate to what he/she writes I would love to hear what you have to say about my post, sincerely.. we get each other and are in love, even planning on the future but inside when i think about it. Hes doing things for me that hes never done. Communication was strained and it was like we were walking on eggshells when we were around each other. On the date, I am planning on taking her to an aquarium(cause shes never been and has wanted to go), take her for lunch, and then take her to a special place where weve had good memories (Lake Las Vegas), and I plan on playing the first guitar song Ive ever sang to her when we first began dating. And you say you have a man you love and a man that loves you than he is going to be there to support you in anyway he can until you find your stride again. So I was wondering if indeed her relationship with the guy is not that serious. So using that profile I made a tinder to see if he was there, which he wasnt, but his cousin was. Please help. Dear Dr. She tells me she doesnt her self yet her friends say she does? i have since found that he was texting women and web chatting with woman the whole time his nan was here basically dying? He refuses to feel anything. On Sunday I tried taking to her but she was adamant it was over saying she still loves me but isnt in love with me and that shes not attracted to me anymore. I am bettering myself. Im sorry to read of your heartache. Maybe she needs individual therapy to get to know herself better and respect her own feelings better. That was a lie to buy myself some time. And he didnt know how it happened, but shed been calling him and something led to the other and he gave in to temptation. Shes lost mytrust as when I we argued often I begged for never gave her space I kept saying Ill never do it again. we talked some more about how she felt because her communication with me is not the best, she likes to keep things inside. However Shes going through a phase where she feels she needs to find herself which I completely understand. Good luck with turning that around. Hi Melly She lied down straight in my bed. I was just like you say you are my gr8 off 3yrs and didnt even notice I was doin that. I wrote on here in November of this year. She would tell people that I would always only be the stupid girlfriend nothing more because she would be the on,y wife he would ever have. Now in his early 40s and hes just talking about it. A few months after I nursed my grandmother until she died, and my son recently had a bad mva and broke his back. Be your true self and the right partner will value you and uplift your dreams and aspirations. If I hurt him, Im sure my behavior could lead to hurting friends and family if I dont change for the better. Not an old flame. Mom idealized the ex wife and son likely feels like a failure in moms eyes. What assurances will he give you that he is mature enough to stand by you and work things out when marriage becomes stressful? This was 3 weeks ago. eventually, I came to my senses and told her how I felt. My past is not letting me live. I want to make things better, but I have been hurt most recently. So your husband isnt going to get past it without help. She almost diedfor 2 mos in the NICU. My husband feels disrespected and made a fool of because I didnt take control of the situation. I dont want to compromise and I dont want to keep calling him so as not to look needy..pls help!. I was disappointed and thought this was going to end up just like my previous 3 experiences. If it was fear, then your husband has the work to do to be a different kind of presence for you. I cannot do an abrupt withdrawal of everything, shutters down and shop closed. Hi Sean, Deb The 15 Ideas For a Perfect First Date Are: He also asked me to hold on to concert tickets I got him because he wants to go he just wants to see how things play out. Zeki S, Romaya JP (2008). I screwed up & have TRULY tried to tell him how I felt betrayed by him because of the drinking/drugs and I was not going to come 2nd to a beer! We have been together for almost 4 years and were living together for 2.5. His/her awakening to the fact that you have been deeply wounded in the relationship, and that you need to heal, will dawn on him/her slowly. She WAS telling me for years that I was not paying attention, and not giving her and the kids all of myself. The anger, hurtful words are irrational. And I meet a new guy who in many ways is better than my ex but I just cant feel anything for him its so frustrating but I just cant stop loving my ex. Over the years he has struggled with excessive alcohol abuse and usually I am able to bring it up and he notices its getting worse and fixes it himself. If you go do something I dont suggest, I understand. This tells me that you actually lack some of the coping skills you need. Usually this will happen when the couple comes from homes of abuse, neglect, abandonment, or unpredictability. He was in a relationship at the time and once again locked up. How much should a person fight before realising that its time to let go? Any fool can fight back. She left me for a month and then came back, admitted she had been with someone else, and I didnt care. Me and my boyfriend are in a relationship for 4 years. Then he said the situation cant be fixed because you are who you are and you cant change a persons personality. One year down the line.. he started liking his job, he settled in finally.. but the attitude towards me did not change. This, too, is a lot of work. What should i do? Hi, That is understandable. It truly is possible to rebuild. I realise that this is not going to be helpful for him in overcoming his issues with alcohol. That was the last straw for him. We have two children 16 and a 6 yr old . Im im a relationship for 2 years now. I broke up with him. He usually texts or calls everyday. She even on my Birthday while I was gone that week said I feel lucky to have you in my life. I need help Should I end this ? It hurts and it will hurt. Of course Ive been tested and done all the practical things but the guilt is why I suffer because he is a wonderful person and did not deserve that. We have two children with our third on the way. The level of emotional connection I have with my EAP is so huge and the level with my husband so minimal it is quite difficult to imagine climbing that mountain. Well i went a little crazy and he said he couldnt handle everything. A week ago we had a fight that turned really messy resulting in him breaking up with me. This is serious! He did all of this and I still found things to fear in our relationship but nothing because he gave me a reason to fear it. Me having to tend to our newborn. He has made his choice of drugs and drop kick friends over me and his kids. The other kind of lovethe tender feelings for children, or the compassionate love that you have when youve been married 50 yearsis about giving. I feel for you. Circumstances made me go back to Russia while she got help for her physcological. My girlfriend always told me that what I played and painted was beautiful but I still lacked contentment in my life. I love him so much, I feel I lost my best friend but I have to respect myself. We often try to get from our partners what we lack within. I thought we were on the same page but after the silent treatment for 3 weeks I said well apparently I am not worth it for you to not try to talk to me. but dr. i understand and know how he feels . My husband felt he had fulfilled his part but I was slacking with my end. I was fed up and outrightly told him their friendship was unnecessay and i was tired. She invited Peter to join our luncheon & I watched as my husband physically shuddered & a dark cloud came down over his face. Everything is my fault and he is through done with us. It happened a 2nd time & I questioned him. but instead of telling me about the incident, he lied to me , to my face. Duh, but I Needed Someone To Be there to complain to which I did. Of course, there is my book, The Healing Is Mutual. And then I get afraid that she is going to leave me. Me and my ex were dating for about 5years and 3 months. Pulling back or "un-loving" isn't a good strategy and I question if it's even possible while continuing the relationship. That hurt way too much, i tried to contact her on messenger and sent sms, but she didnt reply to anything, in a moment of pain and hurt i wasnt thinking i was very hurt and i did something that may be unforgivable, i sent her husband a fb message, telling him that shes been lying to hem for years. The relationship didnt end up with me stalking her or hating her and I think thats a sign of maturity. I know this is a case of not realizing what you have until its gone, but I honestly realized what I had when we were together but was regrettably willing to risk it as I was yearning for new life experience while Im young. I found out the reason was because she never felt heard and ultimately, over time just felt defeated and didnt bother arguing anymore because there was just no point (which is all true) The 1st month I spent being really sad, needy and desperate for forgiveness. Her paychecks were never steady or reliable to pay our bills on time. we never got into a relationship before all of this because he has commitment issues, he has never had a girlfriend before. what will him interested on me again ?what kind of conversation i should have with him over the phone . The responsibility of caring for the human being you brought into this world should be your first and top priority. 3 years ago when we first began to get to know each other, he hurt me really bad. I have apologized to her but with each passing day I feel like she is beginning to hate and resent me for what I did to her. Berit Brogaard, D.M.Sci., Ph.D., is a professor of philosophy and the Director of the Brogaard Lab for Multisensory Research at the University of Miami. Next morning I turn my phone off and leave town for the day. I call her about an hour after the first argument, I apologize and tell her that I made a huge mistake in arguing about my clothing, she thanks me for the apology, but says shes not taking me, even though I said I could go, dress formally and had apologized. He would tell me he wasnt in love with me but then would say he was only saying that. Hi Marie, If only Id been more patient and stayed away from her awhile so she could have been thinking like she said she would. I am offering a course in this very subject, however, and you might want to inquire further. I asked if he knew she was here? He loves me very much i know. My wife and I had set goals in place. He has stopped drinking and will continue to. This is a terribly sad and painful experience in your life that will take time to heal from. Note that i do not call her. In addition, he was chatting up another girl, hoping to meet up with her. And not because I liked it I thought it was funny and we were joking around. I told him I needed time to heal and I knew I could get past this, but within a day or so he wanted to act like things were fine. It kills me to know that I am the cause of his broken heart. There, I cant help you. She got drunk and more out of control than Ive ever seen her. I know he still loves me. 1. I started going to therapy and it has done wonders. He also doesnt feel the same about me. Copyright 2007 - 2023 GoodTherapy, LLC. Will his actions change after a while? He lost all contact with his ex fiance. Facebook, smart phone,kids,help others and work. I need advice I am at my wits end and dont know what to do. You can always email me directly to get details. 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